Welcome to CrazyVille…(also known as the time in my life when all I could eat I was a turkey subway sandwich for breakfast, lunch and dinner). It’s all I could get down because of my panic… Today I bought a subway sandwich and ate it with absolutely no issue whatsoever. I’ve come a long way baby! …
Have you ever been patted down all over by security? I thought I had been before. You know, an ankle here or there, but never a complete pat down. Wow. That was really intense for me, and I got emotional. I’m not sure why. I think it was because I was powerless. I mean, …
Most mornings I start my day with coffee and something that reminds my fear-based human mind that I, and everyone else, comes from, remains in, and will return to…love. I heard it once, and I love simple analogies that every living being is like a drop of the ocean. We are not the ocean… …
Each new day used to mean a new day to “survive the after effects of surviving.” I call it “surviving the surviving.” It took a very long time to train my brain to look at a new day, and frankly everything, in a new way. It doesn’t happen overnight or even after years of …
How do you heal from the emotional boo-boos from childhood? Acknowledge them. Just because they may not be visible to others, doesn’t mean they aren’t right there under the surface. Every once in awhile you may see a little glimpse, or accidentally crash into them. Every lake has rocks. Big ones, little …
As a runaway, I have lived in children’s forts in the woods, long abandoned empty trailers, condos under construction, condemned apartment buildings with kind poor families (more than one to a bed), with rapist drug dealers, a pimp, etc… Just before that, I lived with my my newly divorced father, who thought it …
Knowing when and how to “say something” is a learn-able skill. 1. We have to practice to get braver and better, like with any new skill. 2. At first we are probably going to suck at it and sound like an idiot, and then we will get a little better and only …
What do you do when you’re making new friends? What do you wear? How do you behave? Do you use your best manners? What level of personal depth do you go to in the “getting to know each other conversation?” Hi…my name is Betty Lou and in my freshman year of college I did …
They Already Know the Worst Things I've Done…Now What?! Read More »
A person who has consistently been mean asked a very close friend of mine if “she stays as far away from social media as possible…” out of embarrassment of being associated with me. Ouch. Everyone. Every one…has secrets, traumas, quirks, challenges, etc. I’m not the Lone Ranger. Parents who don’t do their …
When You Are So Deep in the Forest, You Can't See the Trees Read More »
The best therapy workshop I ever did was from an organization called the Hoffman institute. You stay at one of their residential treatment facilities, they have them all over the country, and I believe out of the country…for seven days. All you work on for seven days is the issues you have that were …
Friendships, for women so it seems, is more complicated and confusing than for men. It is potentially the most emotionally rewarding or deeply painful of any other relationship a girl could have. Maybe it’s just me, but no other relationship has made me question everything about myself…how I look, how I respond, did …
Emotional boo boo’s are like rogue weed vines… mow them over and they’ll multiply and resurface at the most inopportune time. The best weed killer is within you and isn’t nearly as difficult as the weeds want you to believe! What I learned about weeds is that if I mow them over, they …
