Deep thoughts by Jack Handy. Ok, not really, but I do have something on my mind that I want to talk about: Survival sex. As in women (and men) having sex with people they really would rather not have sex with…because they need something they can’t afford and lack family or support …
Sharing space with someone who has been traumatized is a challenge, and so goes the first gross understatement of the day. I was expecting Charlie (my husband) at a certain time. It was 20 minutes before that time. I’m on the phone and doing a project when Charlie walked in the room making …
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Knowing when and how to “say something” is a learn-able skill. 1. We have to practice to get braver and better, like with any new skill. 2. At first we are probably going to suck at it and sound like an idiot, and then we will get a little better and only …
What do you do when you’re making new friends? What do you wear? How do you behave? Do you use your best manners? What level of personal depth do you go to in the “getting to know each other conversation?” Hi…my name is Betty Lou and in my freshman year of college I did …
They Already Know the Worst Things I've Done…Now What?! Read More »
Healing is not a destination, depending on one’s reaction to trauma. Mind you, NOT the amount of trauma. Healing can be a lifestyle. It can be something you have to dance with every day, or some days, or monthly and seasonally… When something “comes up for me,” I remember something or I get triggered. I …
A person who has consistently been mean asked a very close friend of mine if “she stays as far away from social media as possible…” out of embarrassment of being associated with me. Ouch. Everyone. Every one…has secrets, traumas, quirks, challenges, etc. I’m not the Lone Ranger. Parents who don’t do their …
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The best therapy workshop I ever did was from an organization called the Hoffman institute. You stay at one of their residential treatment facilities, they have them all over the country, and I believe out of the country…for seven days. All you work on for seven days is the issues you have that were …
Friendships, for women so it seems, is more complicated and confusing than for men. It is potentially the most emotionally rewarding or deeply painful of any other relationship a girl could have. Maybe it’s just me, but no other relationship has made me question everything about myself…how I look, how I respond, did …
Emotional boo boo’s are like rogue weed vines… mow them over and they’ll multiply and resurface at the most inopportune time. The best weed killer is within you and isn’t nearly as difficult as the weeds want you to believe! What I learned about weeds is that if I mow them over, they …
I was a proud volunteer at one of the coolest…funnest…events ever… Girls On The Run 5 k Parrrrrty! Music and games…. girls, Moms…and Dads…with hair painted neon colors and hot pink tutu’s! From Girls on the Run website: We inspire girls… Girls on the Run is a transformational physical activity based positive …