Each new day used to mean a new day to "survive the after effects of surviving." I call it "surviving the surviving." It took a very long time to train my brain to look at a new day, and frankly everything, in a new way. It doesn't happen overnight or even after...
Day: September 21, 2017
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Everyone Has Rocks
How do you heal from the emotional boo-boos from childhood? Acknowledge them. Just because they may not be visible to others, doesn't mean they aren't right there under the surface. Every once in awhile you may see a little glimpse,...
Doing Your Work and Sleeping in Your Victory
As a runaway, I have lived in children's forts in the woods, long abandoned empty trailers, condos under construction, condemned apartment buildings with kind poor families (more than one to a bed), with rapist drug dealers, a pimp, etc... Just before that,...
Deep Thoughts…
Deep thoughts by Jack Handy. Ok, not really, but I do have something on my mind that I want to talk about: Survival sex. As in women (and men) having sex with people they really would rather not have sex with…because they need something they can’t...
It Takes a Very Special Kind of Soul to Love and Live with a Survivor
Sharing space with someone who has been traumatized is a challenge, and so goes the first gross understatement of the day. I was expecting Charlie (my husband) at a certain time. It was 20 minutes before that time. I'm on the phone and doing a project when...
If You See Something… Say Something
Knowing when and how to "say something" is a learn-able skill. 1. We have to practice to get braver and better, like with any new skill. 2. At first we are probably going to suck at it and sound like an idiot, and then we will get a little better and...
They Already Know the Worst Things I've Done…Now What?!
What do you do when you're making new friends? What do you wear? How do you behave? Do you use your best manners? What level of personal depth do you go to in the "getting to know each other conversation?" Hi...my name is Betty Lou and in my freshman year of...
Healing Can Be a Lifestyle
Healing is not a destination, depending on one's reaction to trauma. Mind you, NOT the amount of trauma. Healing can be a lifestyle. It can be something you have to dance with every day, or some days, or monthly and seasonally... When something...
When You Are So Deep in the Forest, You Can't See the Trees
A person who has consistently been mean asked a very close friend of mine if "she stays as far away from social media as possible..." out of embarrassment of being associated with me.Ouch. Everyone. Every one...has secrets, traumas, quirks, challenges,...
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